10 Tips 2 Unlocking the Secret 2 Staying Young with a Childlike Innocence

How to stay young childlike innocence

When a child is born; the world around them seems to be filled with wonders. The different noises, and smells, overwhelms their precious deep-filled starry eyed wonder. So they cry with joy as they begin to see a colourful world that their senses cannot wait to explore.

Sometimes, they might even get hurt in the process of venturing out, but, this experience never put them off. They continue to explore the world around them… both the pain, and the wonders that life has in store for them.

As children the smell of fresh picked flowers, the small feet paddling in bathwater or the puddles, soon the child forget the pain of the rough of tumbles of life.  They just continue to enjoy the journey that life has to offer. But what has happened to us since then?  life changed us. We lose this sense of childlike wonder. Pain and suffering has aged us forcing us to become bitter.

So we forget what it was like not having a care in the world. We have forgotten about that first crush that pin up on our wall. Life has become like a knife, and sharpened our spirit to such degree that we lost our sense of innocence.

If we have been bullied whether in school, workplace, we begin to build walls around us. We block out the sunlight, the flowers stop growing, we also stop living and laughing as little babies does.

Something has happened to us. What is worse we continue into this cycle of what the world regard to be, ‘maturity.’ Well, I don’t want to be mature! I don’t want to be; if being mature means to stop living, and never enjoying life! I

don’t want to be mature, if it means acting all serious, and not having my spirit rejoicing at the birth of spring when the green grass shows off their colourful bloom .

I have seen what maturity do to people. They take life too seriously! They find it hard being themselves as they have joined the, ‘mature club,’ old farts ready for grave. They don’t respond when the first flower of spring begins to bloom. They are dead inside, and they want you to join their spiritual morgue!

As we get older, we fall in love, we get disappointments in our lives, and the experience dulls our senses. We no longer paddle our feet with wonder when we jump into a lake, or, visit the seaside. We don’t build sandcastles anymore, or hold a tender flower that has just arrived through the moist willing soil, to smell it, and celebrate being alive!

We have joined the old farts club. Well, I am a rebel. I am a rebel for life, and living. Yes, I have been hurt in the past. But, it has never killed my childlike wonder. When I was homeless on the streets, I would look up at the millions of diamond formed dazzling stars wondering if there was life out there in space!

We only stop living when we allow pain, and others to prevent us from smelling again that fresh flower, that Spring proudly gives to us. Spring  reminds us that: we are children of the earth. But we stop living, and cease being human;  when we refuse to look at the wonders, and mysteries, and beauty of life.

I can go to a local park, and it feels like I am heaven. A child with a wild imagination can make jumping into a shallow puddle seem like a sea wave! Heaven is a state of mind it is where children have corned the market with their innocence.

It is no wonder Fred Astaire sang these words:
‘Heaven… I’m in heaven,
And my heart beats so that I can hardly speak.
And I seem to find the happiness I seek,
When we’re out together dancing cheek to cheek.’

When was the last time that our heart beat so fast with the excitement of life? We lose this innocence when we also care too much what other people think about us. Self consciousness can lose this beautiful child like quality.

We love comedy because it is the only time when we can forget about being old farts and really have a belly laugh. We can let down the emotional barriers of acting right and mature and really be lost in the moment.

10 Tips on how to remain childlike as though life has never hurt you

1. Watch a tender movies eating pop corn, pretending you have not seen it before.
2. Pretend when you go to the park it is your first time. You will be surprise how much your sense will pick out different things and smells.
3. Laugh often
4. Act and celebrate life like a child.
5. Keep healthy and fit mentally and physically.
6. Stop thinking negatively it will age you
7. Look out for figures in the clouds and see how many shapes you can see
8. Always revert to watching movies you saw in your childhood
9. Have a pillow fight with a friend loved ones etc…
10. Read children’s book. I read Brothers Grimm, and Handerson

Having innocence is a beautiful thing as you love as though you were never hurt before. You kiss, like it was your first time. You make love differently and never the same way. Most of all, it shows the world that no matter what you have gone through, you are alive! You have maintained that innocence.

When you come alive, people will be uncomfortable. They are still in land of, ‘the living dead.’ When you have a beaming light around you, a smile than can launch a thousand ships, they won’t like it. When you have maintained your innocence, and childlike wonder; despite all that life has thrown at you, the reward of living is then yours.

Remember that trying to get people to understand your special journey of innocence is like trying to give garlic to a vampire! Enjoy your innocence and your journey. Create the world that you want to see by acting it! Heaven is around you and it starts with your imagination!

Let it run wild. Let your imagination be like a wild horse escaping to freedom! Gallop through the grassland at break neck speed not looking back, and refusing to be put back into the barn!

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Powerful Confidence Building Self Esteem Healing Workshop

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Powerful Confidence Building and Self Esteem Healing Workshop

Once in a while, we all need that extra confidence and self esteem during our lives. When we have confidence, it enables us to tackle life’s problem that much easier. Building confidence creates the feeling of certainty that you can accomplish what you set out to do. Confidence is like any other emotion. It is something you feel, and you can train yourself to access it in an instant

There are many reasons why we find that that self esteem is just not there.  These factors can range from:

  1. Damaged childhood
  2. Bullying in the work place
  3. Surviving Domestic violence
  4. Controlling Bad Relationships
  5. Abusive parents
  6. Bullying in the work place and so on…

My unique sessions have helped many people with my reiki healing confidence building workshop.  If there is a valuable lesson to be learnt… it is that, everyone is different. We are all in pain for difference reasons, and lack confidence in ourselves for a wide range of different factors.  One size does not fit all.

Not knowing how to be and feel confident can be very painful and confusing at the best of times.  Why? Because we allow other people to shine, while we are tucked away inside of our shell!

Some of us comfort eat, or resort, to drifting into a spiral of hopelessness. Everyone else around us just seem to just receive praise and adulation, at times, when they don’t deserve it! Or we end up becoming someone else’s door mat.  The list is endless…

Building confidence and self esteem is all about inner healing. It is about understanding the ROOT to begin with and exploring entangling the negative attachment. Self esteem is an emotional energy of self acceptance, and learning to love ourselves for whom and what we are.  As long as this energy works in harmony with each other, our confidence will begin to grow.

Your confidence and self esteem Reiki sessions are unique and personalize! There is nothing else similar to it! The reiki session is not only energy healing but also one-to-one deep interactive counselling.

Reiki Confidence Self Esteem Workshop Will Cover:

  1. Releasing the emotional attachment to self hate and doubt
  2. Changing your mindset how you see yourself.
  3. Healing Spiritual and Emotional Traumas where the damage was created!
  4. Empowering you with positive mantras with life changing words!
  5. Reset and rewire your negative thoughts
  6. Crying it out and letting it go!
  7. Helping you to look to the future and not dwell in the past…!
  8. Training your brain to let go off negative thoughts
  9. Deep Piano (live) positive building music therapy

At the end of each session you will also feel the following:

  1. A deep feeling of spiritual recharge
  2. Improved sleep
  3. reduction in depression and anxiety
  4. Pain relief
  5. Deep Positive feeling and great confidence
  6. Increase energy
  7. Emotional healing and release
  8. Help mental clarity
  9. Strengthen the immune system
  10. Increase in energy and much more…

Depending on how deep the root of the problem is, the healing process can at times unleash buried emotions that were too painful and sore at the time to deal with! Remember! No healing can be done without first digging up old weeds that were preventing the flowers from blossoming! In order for the roses to grow, the weeds first must be removed!  And this can result in a lot of emotions coming out!

Once we begin to tackle the past, while allowing new seeds to fertilize our minds, fresh root will begin to sprout!

This is the beginning of building an awesome confidence you never knew existed!  There was not one person that I could not help! Your healing, your peace of mind, and new found confidence, is my guarantee!

Your Confidence Building Self Esteem building Workshop can be done either Zoom Skype or Whatsapp or in person!  Online… it is just as powerful!

Or you can do it in person one-to-one.  Please, don’t suffer alone!  I am here to help you and assure you that everything happens for a reason. No matter how painful the journey!

Remember, the most beautiful diamonds are found in the darkest places of the earth crust.  Your soul at this moment is in a dark place because a miracle is waiting to happen in your life.  You cannot see it now.  But you will. I promise you!

And I will help you not only during this healing process, but to be able to see light at the end of the tunnel.  We started this journey together, we will fight the storm and rain, but like superwoman, we will get through to the other end! I will never leave anyone in the rain!

So isn’t it time for you to be healed, and to let go off the past?  A world of confidence is waiting for you to discover it. Are you ready for it? I will help you breathe through the pain and will celebrate your new self esteem victory! Are you claiming it?

Don’t give up have faith in yourself; as you are almost at the winning line! I can take you to the next level where you will have confidence in abundance!  If you don’t know what it is like to have super confidence, and self esteem… you are about to experience it! For the first time in your life you will be in full control of your destiny!

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All my sessions are confidential and not shared with anyone.

I am only a phone call away or email!

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Mental Health Bullying in the Work Place Depression Stress Telford Shrewsbury

Bullying at Work Telford Shrewsbury

                                         

                            Confidential  Online Counselling Also Available or (face to face!)

Mental Health and Well Being is now an important aspect of our lives. Many people have failed to see the connections between being bullied and having mental health as a result. If you’re working life is suffering because of being bullied, it eventually will take its’ toil on your mental well-being. No one should have to work in an environment where they are being bullied for whatever reason.

But what is the definition of, ‘Bullying in the Work Place? How do we avoid being bullied in the work place? And how to we spot the signs? These are real issues and questions which we need to find answers for.

  1. Firstly, bullying in the workplace is when it l, it is when someone uses aggression against us.  This could be from using threatening words, or acts of violence or constant name calling. They also treat us less favourably in the work place or overlook us for promotion.

 

  1. Also you find yourself working outside your job role, and when you refuse, you are punished. You work harder in your working environment, and as a result becomes a dogs’ body for everyone else who don’t pull their weight.

 

  1. There is usually a deliberate and constant pattern of behaviour where you are singled out to perform strange jobs as number 2 mentions.  You are treated differently than the rest of your working colleagues and find yourself reported for things you haven’t done! In other words, they try to get you to quit your job.

When your mental health and wellbeing is balanced, you can cope with life, your health improves, and you can see exactly what is happening. If your mind is stressed out to the max and anxious, you make poor decisions and your health suffers as a result, and the bullying increases.

When your mental health suffers as a result of being bullied in the work place, this becomes a formidable weapon for the abusers, as now they will use your mental breakdown as evidence that you can’t do your job.  It is a mean and vicious cycle and I have helped people survive it…

Stress at Work Bullying Examples:

Job stress and bullying can be defined as the harmful physical and emotional responses that occur when the requirements of the job do not match the capabilities, resources, offered to you, or deliberately withheld.  Job stress as a result of being a victim of work place bullying can lead to poor health and even injury. You are forever scrutinise as they want to see you fail.

This mean behaviour leads to anxiety, stress and depression. Suddenly the very idea of going into work gives makes you break out in a sweat. Or you might even suffer an anxiety attack at the prospect of having to go through another dark day of life’s challenges.

If you don’t have the time to step back and recharge the battery and put things into perspective and creating an action plan…  My counselling therapy will do this for you!

Not only am I a spiritual reiki healer, and qualified mentor and personal coach; have I also have a Paralegal Qualification, Ilex legal background in Employment Law!

So this intensive spiritual counselling session, will not only be done in a relaxing ambiance, but creating workable strategies while helping your anxieties, depression, and work related stress, and also from a from a legal viewpoint.

These sessions are also available online at a cheaper rate.

After Each Counselling Session You Will Experience:

  1. A deep feeling of spiritual recharge
  2. Improved sleep
  3. reduction in depression and anxiety
  4. Pain relief
  5. Deep Positive feeling and great confidence
  6. Increase energy
  7. Emotional healing and release
  8. Help mental clarity
  9. Strengthen the immune system
  10. Increase in energy and much more…

Prices are:

£30 Forty minutes

£50 One Hr intensive counselling session and advice

You can text or email me with any questions for a friendly reply.  07507486532 or apositivelifestyle@yahoo.com

All counselling is confidential!

Wolverhampton Dudley Reiki Healing 4 Domestic Violence Abuse

Wolverhampton Domestic violence abuse

                               Face 2 Face or Online Services Available

During Covid lockdown, Wolverhampton Council has recorded high level of abuse. Never before has women shelters been overwhelmed and suffering lack of resources and accommodations. It is not fair that many victims of abuse feel trapped not only having to live with their abusers, but, spiritually drained.

Domestic violence and abusive relationships, leaves spiritual and mental scars.  But until you are caught up inside this dark twisting web, it is hard to know what is happening, or how you got there in the first place!  But what defines domestic abuse?

Domestic violence Wolverhampton
Domestic abuse is not just physical it is emotional it is words!

It’s when there is violent, abusive or bullying behaviour or actions towards a partner or former partner to scare and control them. It can happen at home or outside the home. It causes fear and harm to the body, mind and spirit.  Most abusers who carry out these actions do so in order to:

  1. Break you down psychologically
  2. Total Control over you
  3. Do so because of sexual inadequacy
  4. Compensating lack of masculinity and much more…

Domestic violence is a criminal act and should be reported to a trusted authority. And as stated, verbal abuse is now deemed under the same category.  I have worked with women who have had their confidence smashed and felt ugly because of coming out of relationships where they were constantly ridiculed.  All this comes under, the need to control.  In order for a man to control you he first must ‘love,’ you but after the abuse always follows.

   MT Huss, J Langhinrichsen-Rohling – Law and Human Behavior, 2006 

Scholarly research has shown that most domestic violence abusers many of them are psychopaths.  They have no emotions and will never admit to the harm they are causing you or the long term emotional effects.  They will move on from one victim to another…  They are so clever at what they do that at first, they romance you with flowers, before the abuse follows.

Many women suffering from the side effects of domestic violence whether physical, emotional, or verbal, carries that deep scar.  And it does change you.  The light you once had and that laughter suddenly seems to just disappear. You no longer dress the way you used too because he would control your wardrobe.  While he survived, inwardly you died!

In order to understand healing from domestic violence or toxic relationship; we need to explore how you got into that web.  It can be painful going through that door and reopening it.  But going through it and understanding the process you will never put yourself in that position again!

Most domestic violence abuse is about power. It is about men wanting to control women, and we see these truths even in patriarchal controlled religion. Women are seen as lesser creation, bringing sin into the world or sexualised for male gratification, and for his friends to leer over.  It is a male world and women are just convenient to have his babies or become a social trophy.

How Psychopaths Shift the Blame onto you

Most women after being emotionally or physically abused feels defiled, helpless and confused. She feels like she has failed in life. She is always blaming herself! Stop it!  You are not to blame! He will blame you because:

  1. You didn’t make his tea right
  2. You wore a skirt too short
  3. ]You answered him back
  4. You didn’t kept the house the way he liked it
  5. You put on weight

With your confidence and personality already under attack, he sucks you deeper into his web. The predator will remind you that you were asking for it. This is to serve as further brainwashing so that you do not see his actions as criminal.  So therefore there is no police involvement. This might explain why the majority women do not report domestic violence and abuse.

Reiki healing whether we do it Zoom Skype Online, or face to face, it about untangling the web of deceit and deep pain that is preventing you from breathing. You will feel a deep sense of peace and relaxation, and letting go… but please note, that as you dig up any plant, you will see the bare root at the bottom!

Sometimes things that we want to keep hidden will show themselves and it will be raw. Psychopaths who leave you in this state do so because they want to control your life and it does not matter whether the relationship is over. It is about domination and it is about hate.

 What to Expect During Reiki Healing

  1. Hand on healing
  2. Nice warm tingling sensation in the body
  3. Emotional jubilation or release
  4. Tearful therapy
  5. Spiritual Detoxing and more…

After the reiki therapy some people find it dramatic. It is life changing because you are dealing with real pain and deep issues that has been buried.  Once your mind and body breathes through this doorway you will get through the other side and be the person you were meant to be.

Prices are:

£30 Forty minutes Reiki Healing

£50 One Hr intensive reiki healing and intensive counselling session

You can text or email me with any questions for a friendly reply.  07507486532 or apositivelifestyle@yahoo.com

Please note, therapy is also available online if you are not within travelling distance.

Telford Shrewsbury Reiki Counselling 4 Domestic Violence Abuse

Wolverhampton Domestic violence abuse

Telford Shrewsbury Reiki Counselling 4 Domestic Violence Abusive Relationships

Domestic violence and abusive relationships, leaves spiritual and mental scars. But until you are caught up inside this dark twisting web, it is hard to know what is happening, or how you got there in the first place! But what defines domestic abuse?

Domestic violence
Domestic abuse is not just physical it is emotional it is words!

It’s when there is violent, abusive or bullying behaviour or actions towards a partner or former partner to scare and control them. It can happen at home or outside the home. It causes fear and harm to the body, mind and spirit. Most abusers who carry out these actions do so in order to:

1. Break you down psychologically
2. Total Control over you
3. Do so because of sexual inadequacy
4. Compensating lack of masculinity and much more…
Domestic violence is a criminal act and should be reported to a trusted authority. And as stated, verbal abuse is now deemed under the same category. I have worked with women who have had their confidence smashed and felt ugly because of coming out of relationships where they were constantly ridiculed. All this comes under, the need to control. In order for a man to control you he first must ‘love,’ you but after the abuse always follows.

MT Huss, J Langhinrichsen-Rohling – Law and Human Behavior, 2006

Scholarly research has shown that most domestic violence abusers many of them are psychopaths. They have no emotions and will never admit to the harm they are causing you or the long term emotional effects.

They will move on from one victim to another… They are so clever at what they do that at first, they romance you with flowers, before the abuse follows.

Many women suffering from the side effects of domestic violence whether physical, emotional, or verbal, carries that deep scar. And it does change you. The light you once had and that laughter suddenly seems to just disappear. You no longer dress the way you used too because he would control your wardrobe. While he survived, inwardly you died!

In order to understand healing from domestic violence or toxic relationship; we need to explore how you got into that web. It can be painful going through that door and reopening it. But going through it and understanding the process you will never put yourself in that position again!

Most domestic violence abuse is about power. It is about men wanting to control women, and we see these truths even in patriarchal controlled religion. Women are seen as lesser creation, bringing sin into the world or sexualized for male gratification, and for his friends to leer over. It is a male world and women are just convenient to have his babies or become a social trophy.

How Psychopaths Shift the Blame onto you

Most women after being emotionally or physically abused feels defiled, helpless and confused. She feels like she has failed in life. She is always blaming herself! Stop it! You are not to blame! He will blame you because:

1. You didn’t make his tea right
2. You wore a skirt too short
3. ]You answered him back
4. You didn’t kept the house the way he liked it
5. You put on weight

With your confidence and personality already under attack, he sucks you deeper into his web. The predators will remind you that you were asking for it. This is to further serve as brainwashing so that you do not see his actions as criminal.

So therefore there is no police involvement. This might explain why the majority women do not report domestic violence and abuse.

Reiki healing whether we do it Zoom Skype Online, or face to face, it about untangling the web of deceit and deep pain that is preventing you from breathing. You will feel a deep sense of peace and relaxation, and letting go… but please note, that as you dig up any plant, you will see the bare root at the bottom!

Sometimes things that we want to keep hidden will show themselves and it will be raw. Psychopaths who leave you in this state do so because they want to control your life and it does not matter whether the relationship is over. It is about domination and it is about hate.

What to Expect During Reiki Healing

1. Hand on healing
2. Nice warm tingling sensation in the body
3. Emotional jubilation or release
4. Tearful therapy
5. Spiritual Detoxing and more…

After the reiki therapy some people find it dramatic. It is life changing because you are dealing with real pain and deep issues that has been buried. Once your mind and body breathes through this doorway you will get through the other side and be the person you were meant to be.

Prices are:

£30 Forty minutes Reiki Healing
£50 One Hr intensive reiki healing and intensive counselling session
You can text or email me with any questions for a friendly reply. 07507486532 or apositivelifestyle@yahoo.com

Please note, therapy is also available online if you are not within travelling distance.